Do you use the buddy system in your home? Over the years we have had various forms of the buddy system in play. It could be that an older child is the buddy of the little one next to her in the van. Older child helps with buckling up and getting in and out of the van. At church during fellowship meals, we buddy up to help get through the line efficiently and to help monitor those who might not have good judgement on a fair sampling of the yummies. We sometimes buddy up at chores as well. This is a great help in training younger ones on chores. Isn’t working more fun with a buddy?
And so is working out. A year or so ago, I started C25K and lasted a couple of weeks. It was hard. Life is busy. I was just lazy. Why is being healthy so hard, right? After having Ezra, I am in need of getting back into shape. Guess what? It isn’t as easy as it was a few years ago! A few of the children have joined me occasionally when doing a workout video or walking at the track. I still opted to skip exercise frequently. Now I have a dedicated and devoted workout buddy. Mary, my daughter, was interested in doing the C25K program so I decided to join her.
I’m not going to lie. It’s hard. Running is painful. Thoughts of quitting have crossed my mind more than once. Guess what? Mary won’t let me. She reminds me when it is our running days. She tells me that the below freezing temperatures today are not a reason to skip it. Trust me, I tried to convince her that it wasn’t smart to run in below freezing temperatures. We are in the south, people!
She didn’t back down. So we layered up and headed to the track. It was cold. It hurt. Well, it hurt for a while. Then I didn’t focus so much on the pain in my knees or how long we had to run. I was enjoying setting the pace, making it to the end of each running session, and enjoying laughs with my daughter. I’m thankful that we finished before the snow started. I have no doubt she would have made me run in the snow. (Feel free to pray for sunshine on Wednesday aka the next running day.)
Having a buddy to run with makes all the difference.
Let me say that again: having a buddy to run with makes all the difference. I’m not talking just about doing an exercise program. Really a buddy can be a great encourager and motivator in any area. Struggling with your homeschool day? Want to dig deeper in to the Word? Having trouble making smart eating choices? Parenting your precious one challenging you? Need encouragement to love your husband? Get a buddy/mentor/friend. Pray about those you know and seek out someone to walk along side you. Someone who will hold you accountable even when it is below freezing and you just want to snuggle under the covers and ignore what you need to do.
Life is hard. Beautiful, miraculous, and hard. Having a buddy, a dear friend, to lift us up helps us to push through.
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
I have a dear friend who I can be open about my struggles with. I know that she understands because she is a mom, too. I know that she doesn’t mind speaking truth to me and she wants me to speak truth to her. We are buddies. Encouraging one another in this run of motherhood; especially when the temps are freezing and the knees are hurting. Even better: we get to share in the celebrations, too. The buddy system is a beautiful thing.