Love and Respect

Love and Respect By Emerson Eggerichs

Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect His Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is a marriage book based on Ephesians 5:33, extensive Biblical research and psychological research. In Love and Respect, Dr. Eggerichs speaks on the power of unconditional love and unconditional respect and how couples can reap the benefits of marriage that God intended.

“Nevertheless, let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Eph 5:33

This is the foundation of the book Love and Respect. Dr. Eggerich spends some time sharing some of the difficulties and struggles that marriages are facing today and the alarming rate of divorce in the Church body. He explains how in his study he discovered that one key teaching was being missed and that was that while a woman has a deep need to be loved; a  man’s need is not for love but for respect. While it appears so obvious in Scripture, so many are missing that vital message.

Then the book is divided into sections. The section for the husband to read is teaching and explaining to him why his wife needs to be loved and how to express that to her. Following is a section for the wife on the deep need a husband has for respect and how to make sure the is expressing that to him. He addresses the issue of women working out of necessity today and how that can shift the view of authority and leadership that is a part of how man was created. It ends with a practical advice on how to live out “love and respect” in a marriage. Dr. Eggerich also make the point that it does not have to be a joint endeaver. Your showing love and respect is not dependent on your spouse. You do it because it was commanded in Scripture.

Overall, I enjoyed reading this book. Whether you marriage is struggling or  not, any book that points you to Scripture to enjoy the full blessings of marriage is refreshing. It was an easy read; not full of different studies and statistics.

However, I did feel the the first few chapters were repetitive. It seemed that Dr. Eggerich wanted to make his point and got a bit overzealous about it. His point was valid but a tad overdone.

Also, if you grab this book expecting a never before heard revelation, you will be disappointed. Dr. Eggerich has a different presentation of the respect/love concept but this is not the first book to discuss it.

While I found the book served as a friendly reminder to check and make sure I was doing all I could to respect my husband, I’d rather pass it on to someone who needs that same reminder or whose marriages needs some encouragement. Just leave me a comment and Wednesday, February 2nd I’ll draw a winner!

**Disclaimer – As a member of BookSneeze.com, I was given a complimentary copy of this book for review. No compensation was made.

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Yesterday, Eddie and I celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary. 14 years!!!!! It has gone by so fast. Some days it seems like only yesterday that I saw him in the church fellowship hall wearing a blue New York mission trip shirt playing Chubby Bunny thinking that man, he was cute. And wasn’t it only yesterday that I saw him across the cafeteria and gave him thumbs up for the full beard he had grown over break? Wasn’t it just last week that I forced myself to eat Mongolian BBQ because I really, really, really liked this guy?

The guy who, after seeing me trying not to gag on the Mongolian BBQ , took me McDonald’s for a burger and grabbed himself a hot fudge sundae? Do you know after 14 years of marriage he still grabs me a burger from McDonald’s? (And still loves a good hot fudge sundae)

The guy who holds sleeping babies on his chest…

The guy who loves the Lord with all his heart…

The guy who holds me every night as I fall asleep…

The guy who makes me laugh every day…

The guy who gets teary eyed at the thought of walking 5 precious daughters down the aisle..

The guy who is working hard to create a business to pass down to his son…

The guy who I love to hear preach the Word…

The guy who keeps me stocked in chocolate…

The guy who sings silly songs…

The guy who leads us in family worship…

The guy who still catches my eye…

The guy who loves my cooking…

The guy who is so willing to help others…

The guy who calls me Sweetie…

The guy who isn’t afraid to say he was wrong (not that he is ever wrong, snort)

 

Thank you, Lord for blessing me with 14 years as Eddie’s wife. I know without a doubt that I am completely cherished by him. I never doubt his love and care for me. I don’t take that for granted. I am beyond blessed to be called Eddie’s wife; his Sweetie.

I love you, Eddie. I can’t wait to see what the next 14 years hold for us. There is nowhere else I want to be!

(I’m done being mushy. Carry on.)

 

*Note: I would love to include a picture but I’m not on my computer and our wedding was pre-digital, lol. So wedding photos are in storage. Just imagine us with no gray hair and a little bit smaller and there ya go.