Love and Respect

Love and Respect By Emerson Eggerichs

Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect His Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is a marriage book based on Ephesians 5:33, extensive Biblical research and psychological research. In Love and Respect, Dr. Eggerichs speaks on the power of unconditional love and unconditional respect and how couples can reap the benefits of marriage that God intended.

“Nevertheless, let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Eph 5:33

This is the foundation of the book Love and Respect. Dr. Eggerich spends some time sharing some of the difficulties and struggles that marriages are facing today and the alarming rate of divorce in the Church body. He explains how in his study he discovered that one key teaching was being missed and that was that while a woman has a deep need to be loved; a  man’s need is not for love but for respect. While it appears so obvious in Scripture, so many are missing that vital message.

Then the book is divided into sections. The section for the husband to read is teaching and explaining to him why his wife needs to be loved and how to express that to her. Following is a section for the wife on the deep need a husband has for respect and how to make sure the is expressing that to him. He addresses the issue of women working out of necessity today and how that can shift the view of authority and leadership that is a part of how man was created. It ends with a practical advice on how to live out “love and respect” in a marriage. Dr. Eggerich also make the point that it does not have to be a joint endeaver. Your showing love and respect is not dependent on your spouse. You do it because it was commanded in Scripture.

Overall, I enjoyed reading this book. Whether you marriage is struggling or  not, any book that points you to Scripture to enjoy the full blessings of marriage is refreshing. It was an easy read; not full of different studies and statistics.

However, I did feel the the first few chapters were repetitive. It seemed that Dr. Eggerich wanted to make his point and got a bit overzealous about it. His point was valid but a tad overdone.

Also, if you grab this book expecting a never before heard revelation, you will be disappointed. Dr. Eggerich has a different presentation of the respect/love concept but this is not the first book to discuss it.

While I found the book served as a friendly reminder to check and make sure I was doing all I could to respect my husband, I’d rather pass it on to someone who needs that same reminder or whose marriages needs some encouragement. Just leave me a comment and Wednesday, February 2nd I’ll draw a winner!

**Disclaimer – As a member of, I was given a complimentary copy of this book for review. No compensation was made.